YOUR MARITAL BANK ACCOUNT

By Brent Ulrich

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��� If you are like me balancing a checkbook is like trying to run a marathon on your knees.� I find it very difficult to balance what I put in and what I took out.� It doesn�t always seem worth the effort to have that dreaded accounting to be exactly right.� I figure as long as I put in more than I take out it will all work out.�

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� �The same can be said of our marriages.� The more emotional deposits we make the better our relationship will be.� Author Gary Smalley, in his book Making Love Last Forever, states, �To divorce-proof your marriage, be sure you are making more �deposits� to the well-being of your spouse than �withdrawals�.��

�� How does a person do that?� A deposit is anything that raises your spouse�s esteem, anything that boosts her morale, anything that will pick him up and elevate him to a higher level. It�s telling your spouse that you love her in the middle of the day.� It�s a touch on the shoulder, an unexpected hug and kiss.� It�s taking time out of your busy day to listen without giving advice.� Gifts, cards, phone calls, and time together are also deposits.

�� A withdrawal is anything that is negative, anything that separates you and your spouse, anything that alienates, causes division and distance.� Withdrawals drain energy from your relationship.� It may be a negative word, ignoring needs, lying, or anything that hurts the relationship.

�� As with your banking account the higher the balance in your marital account, the better.� The more deposits you make, the more enriched your marriage will be.� The question to ask yourself is, what makes a deposit or withdrawal to my spouse? �Be daring enough to ask your spouse that question.� In order to truly make a deposit in your account it has to be something your spouse values.� Just as my bank won�t allow me to deposit Monopoly money in my banking account, (believe me I have more of that than the real stuff!), so a deposit won�t be considered valuable unless it�s important to your spouse. �

�� What�s the ratio of deposits and withdrawals?� It�s been said that an average of five deposits must be made for each withdrawal in order to keep the marriage account balanced.� If you make no deposits you will get no return.� On the other hand, if you are consistently making deposits you will not only rejuvenate your spouse, but you�ll also strengthen your marriage.

YOUR MARITAL BANK ACCOUNT

By Brent Ulrich

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